So, have you guys thought about putting a dress code on your invitation?
Honestly, I think it’s such a good idea. You know how it is as a guest, right? You get an invite, and you have no idea what to wear. You show up too fancy, and you feel awkward all night. But then you show up too casual, and you feel like you totally missed the memo. It’s stressful!
I know even as a wedding officiant, I am sometimes uncertain what to wear. Most of the time, it’s my black suit, white shirt and time. But occasionally there’s a more informal wedding. I show up in my suit and everyone else is in blue jeans! I really wish I had known.
That’s why just a simple note is actually a favor to your guests. I know it can feel a little… I don’t know, ‘bossy’? But it’s not about that at all. It’s just about helping people show up feeling comfortable and confident.
You don’t have to overdo it. Just a little line on your website or the invite does the trick. You know, like:
- ‘Cocktail attire’ if it’s a dressier evening party.
- ‘Garden party casual’ for an outdoor wedding with a more relaxed feel.
- ‘Beach formal’… that one’s great, it tells people ‘look nice, but don’t wear stilettos in the sand.’
You could even add a fun little twist, like ‘dress to dance’ or ‘boots and bow ties welcome.’ Guests actually love having a clue about the vibe you’re going for.
Seriously, go ahead and do it. You’re not being uptight—you’re just making things easier for everyone. When people know what to wear, they can stop worrying and just get excited to celebrate you guys.”