One way to personalize your wedding ceremony is to have something said at the start about you. But what? Here are some questions you can ask yourselves that might give you some ideas. In my experience, whatever you use in the ceremony shouldn’t be too long. You want to make it more “you” but you know, sometimes it’s T.M.I.
Core Relationship & History
These questions focus on the foundation of your relationship and key milestones.
- How did you first meet? (What was your very first impression of each other, and when did that impression change?)
- What was the moment you realized you were in love or wanted to spend your life together? (What specific event, conversation, or feeling made it click?)
- What’s your absolute favorite shared memory from your time dating? (Focus on a moment that truly captures your relationship dynamic.)
- What’s the story of the proposal? (Highlight the emotions and any surprising or funny details.)
- What are three words each of you would use to describe the other person, and why?
Personal Dynamics & Shared Life
These questions get into the specifics of your day-to-day life and what makes your bond unique.
- What is the silliest or most unexpected thing you now do as a couple?
- How do you complement each other? (For example, is one the planner and the other the spontaneous one? How does that work?)
- What is a shared passion, inside joke, or tradition that is uniquely yours?
- When you have a disagreement, how do you resolve it? (This shows a mature understanding of commitment, not just the romantic side.)
- What is one thing you’ve learned about life or love from your partner?
Vision for the Future
These questions look forward to what your marriage means to you.
- What are you most excited about for your life together as a married couple? (Beyond the wedding day.)
- What does “marriage” fundamentally mean to both of you? (Focus on the commitment, values, and partnership.)
- How do you plan to support each other’s individual goals and dreams in the years to come?
- What is the one thing you promise never to stop doing for each other?
- Looking out at the assembled guests, who is one person or group who has been essential to your journey, and why are they here today? (This can naturally transition to acknowledging your loved ones.)