Including little ones in your wedding can add charm, laughter, and unforgettable moments. But let’s be honest—kids are unpredictable. With the right prep, though, your ring bearer and flower girl can shine in their roles instead of melting down mid-aisle. Here’s how to make it work:
1. Keep Expectations Realistic
Don’t expect perfection. Kids under six rarely walk slowly, stay in a straight line, or smile on cue. If they get down the aisle without tears—or with petals in roughly the right place—that’s a win.
2. Practice the Walk
Do a quick “aisle rehearsal” before the big day. Show them where to start, where to end, and what to do with petals or rings. Let them practice with the basket or pillow so it feels familiar.
3. Assign a Buddy
Pair them with an older sibling, cousin, or even a bridesmaid/groomsman to help guide them. Having a trusted hand to hold can prevent stage fright.
4. Give Them a Clear Job
Kids thrive when they understand their role. “Walk to Aunt Sarah and give her the basket” is easier than “scatter petals slowly down the aisle.” Simple instructions = better results.
5. Time Naps & Snacks
A hungry or tired kid will not be your wedding MVP. Make sure they eat and rest before the ceremony. Keep emergency snacks and wipes nearby just in case.
6. Have a Backup Plan
Sometimes kids freeze. Sometimes they sprint. Sometimes they refuse to go at all. And that’s okay! A parent, grandparent, or wedding party member can step in to gently escort them down the aisle—or scoop them up and carry them.
7. Celebrate Their Effort
Big smiles, hugs, or a little treat at the end go a long way. Make it fun and memorable for them, not just for your guests.
8. Embrace the Unpredictable
The “oops” moments are often the stories everyone remembers. A toddler tossing petals backward or shouting “Hi, Mom!” mid-aisle will have your guests grinning.
👉 Bottom line: set them up for success, keep it light, and don’t expect perfection. A little chaos is part of the charm.