Category: Marriage

Hey there, future newlyweds! If you’re reading this, you’re probably knee-deep in wedding planning or at least thinking about popping the question. Premarital counseling? It’s like a relationship tune-up before the big day—super smart move. But let’s be real: sometimes these sessions uncover stuff that’s not all sunshine and roses. We’re talking red flags, those…

Well, first I have to mention my online marriage prep course. It’s based on things I’ve done with couples in face-to-face premarital counseling over the years. The feedback from couples over the years has been very good – they seem to really enjoy it and find it helpful. It’s free to couples whose weddings I…

If you’ve ever wondered why some couples seem to weather anything while others fall apart over small stuff, Dr. John Gottman might have the answer. He’s spent decades studying what makes relationships thrive—or tank—and what he discovered is surprisingly simple: happy couples aren’t luckier or more compatible. They just build their relationship like a strong…

So, I was reading about this incredible study—it’s actually the longest one ever done on happiness. These Harvard researchers started tracking hundreds of people way back in 1938. They’ve followed them for their entire lives—over 80 years now—just to figure out what makes us thrive. And after all that time, the single biggest takeaway is…

My wife and I have been married nearly 50 years now. 50 years! Wow! There are a lot of secrets to a long, healthy marriage but  let’s talk about one of the trickiest parts of a long-term relationship. It’s not just about the day-to-day stuff; it’s about how your relationship is built. This is where…

People love to believe that marriage is a magic wand — say “I do,” and suddenly all your problems vanish. Hollywood’s been selling that story for decades. But real life (and real research) tell a different tale. A recent long-term study found that the biggest boost in happiness doesn’t happen after the wedding. It happens…

Intimacy can settle into a comfy routine, but marriage is your cue to remix it. Don’t let “married life” become code for “sweatpants forever.” Practical Tips: Studies show simple acts like saying “I love you” daily keep couples happier long-term.

Level Up Your Communication (because telepathy is still not a thing) You’ve got the basics down—no more arguments over who pays the rent. But marriage cranks up the need for deeper talks, especially about dreams, fears, and that one habit that’s suddenly more annoying post-vows. Practical Tips: Remember, venting to friends is fine—it doesn’t make…

Hey there, newlyweds! Congratulations on making it official. You’ve already nailed sharing Netflix passwords, divvying up chores, and figuring out who handles the grocery runs without turning it into World War III. So why does that ring and certificate suddenly feel like you’ve leveled up in a video game you didn’t know you were playing?…

1. Keep Dating Each Other (Yes, Even If You Share a Bathroom) What it means: Don’t let “Netflix and takeout” become your only date night. How to do it: • Try a new restaurant once a month — even if it’s just the taco truck by the gas station. • Switch off who plans date…